"Should I Trust My Husband?" Quiz
Takeaway: As a couples therapist in Chicago, I see lots of couples struggle with trust. If you’re wondering whether or not you can actually trust your partner, take my relationship trust quiz to find out. Plus, I’ll share insight into why you might be struggling with trust issues in your relationship.
Understanding the role of trust in a relationship
You've probably heard before that trust is the foundation of a healthy and successful marriage (or any relationship). While this statement sounds cliché, it's true. If you can't trust your partner, it's hard to find a sense of emotional safety in a relationship.
Without the feeling that you can rely on the person you're with, you'll likely have a hard time expressing yourself, feeling secure with your partner, growing as a couple, and more. Love unites people, but trust can help you find longevity and satisfaction in your connection.
It's also important to note that trust isn't something that just happens overnight. Trust can take a while to build in relationships, so if you don't fully trust your partner right now, it doesn't mean that your relationship is necessarily doomed. Trust can also be rebuilt after being broken, so long as both parties are actively involved in the repair process.
If you're here, you're probably feeling uncertain about the level of trust in your relationship. You're not alone—many people feel concerned about whether or not their partners are trustworthy. While communicating with your partner about your feelings is the most direct way to resolve these issues, it can also help to gain an outside perspective.
“Can I trust my husband?" quiz
This quiz can give you that perspective you're looking for. At the same time, remember this quiz is only a tool, not a definitive answer to whether or not you can trust your boyfriend, spouse, or partner. There are likely many different factors that contribute to the present trust levels in your relationship that can't be captured within this quiz.
While this quiz uses language like "boyfriend" and "husband," know that it is applicable to partners of any gender, sexual orientation, and relationship structure.
Let's dive in.
1. How often does your partner follow through with their commitments to you?
A. Almost all the time
B. Sometimes
C. Not very often
2. When you share your feelings with your spouse, how often do you receive the emotional support you're looking for?
A. Almost all the time
B. Sometimes
C. Not very often
3. How often does your partner take accountability for their actions when they upset you?
A. Almost all the time
B. Sometimes
C. Not very often
4. To what extent does your partner share their thoughts, feelings, and details about their life with you?
A. They share things frequently
B. They share things sometimes
C. They don't share with me very often
5. Do you feel like your spouse has your back no matter what challenges you face?
A. Almost all the time
B. Sometimes
C. Not very often
6. How well does your partner take constructive feedback when you express an issue you're having about the relationship?
A. Usually pretty well
B. They react well sometimes, but not always
C. Not very well
7. To what extent do you feel like you and your partner are a team or united front?
A. I usually feel like we're a good team
B. I sometimes feel like we're a good team
C. I don't usually feel like we're a good team
8. Do you feel like your spouse respects your boundaries, privacy, and needs?
A. Almost all the time
B. Sometimes
C. Not very often
9. How often does your partner take your thoughts, feelings, needs, and preferences into consideration when making an important decision?
A. Almost all the time
B. Sometimes
C. Not very often
10. How often do you and your partner spend uninterrupted, quality time together?
A. Quite often
B. Sometimes
C. Not very often
If you answered “C" for most of the questions, you might be struggling with trust in your relationship.
Remember, this quiz is just one tool to help you reflect on the level of trust within your relationship. I don't recommend making hasty decisions based on your answers from these results or other quizzes you may take.
The question of whether you can trust your husband or partner is much deeper than a simple "yes" or "no" answer. It's important to consider the reasons behind potential trust issues to get a clear sense of what's actually going on.
Why you might be struggling with trust issues
This quiz is geared toward how you feel about your partner's actions, which is an important part of trust. However, it's also important to include some self-examination when thinking about potential trust deficits in your relationship.
How do your own actions contribute to the level of trust in your relationship? And does your partner act in a trustworthy way but you somehow still struggle with your own trust issues? There are important questions to think critically and honestly about. Trust is a mutual effort between two people, and it's not only your partner's responsibility to act in a trusting, loving way.
Many people struggle to trust their partners because of past experiences, such as unhealthy relationships with other partners or even unstable relationships with their parents. This can make it difficult to build a healthy, well-off relationship with your current partner. If you have even the slightest doubt that you may not be able to trust your partner, your past insecurities might feel triggered.
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Thankfully, it is possible to have a happy married life even if you struggle with trust issues. Couples therapy can act as a safe space for you and your partner to build trust, work on healthy communication skills, resolve conflict, and address other issues so you can have a stronger connection than ever.
Hold the Vision Therapy is proud to serve people of all backgrounds, genders, sexual orientations, and relationship styles. In addition to couples counseling, we also specialize in polyamory therapy.